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25 weeks!
Totally cheating with this fitted, black dress. But that's how I work. |
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28 weeks! Beginning of "big mamma". Sob!
(This dress REALLY accentuates the belly...I swear I don't look exactly this big in person. Now, not small, mind you, but this is some 36 week shiznizzle right here!) |
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| Who doesn't take self-portraits in the work bathroom? |
Today I chose a dress I only sometimes wear because it makes me look pregnant. “Well now’s as good time as any,” I said as I examined my sloped mid-section in the morning mirror. Thing looked PLUMP! It’s
amazing how clothes can accentuate or minimize a baby bump (I swear: on
Saturday I wore a peasant top that made me look Kathryn circa 2010). Today I’m full-on baby mama. Case in my point from my co-worker this morning: “Kathryn – you POPPED! You looked different last week!” There’s something liberating about no longer being able to suck in a burgeoning gut.
This week I am 28 weeks pregnant, which is the beginning of both the third trimester and the seventh month of pregnancy. I am ecstatic and giddy. Matt is panic-stricken and looking a bit nauseous.
“You had a while to get used to this, you know,” I deadpanned last night as I showed him a changing table I was contemplating. “I don’t think you can ever get used to this,” he replied, glassy-eyed. He reassured me on how excited he is, but I also know, as my internal clock can’t go fast enough, his is ticking with a thud.
On
the weekends he is a flurry of activity as he looks at wood finishes in
preparation to re-sanding the nursery’s shoddy hardwood floors. On Saturday night, when I was out with friends, he painted the nursery a bright yellow appropriately called Sunbeam. He
put the last coat on after I returned home, ten minutes to midnight, in
his underwear with classical music echoing throughout the house. We
discovered mold creeping across our basement yesterday, and I think the
boy was positively going to cry at the thought of another house
project.
Not to say I feel sorry for him. The way he thinks about housework is the way I think about work. Period. My last work trip is to Michigan and Colorado the first full week of October, and it can’t get here quickly enough. After that it’s local events, but even that (Three hours at an evening networking event? Five hours at a job fair?) still doesn’t pacify the alarmist in me. Luckily, I feel great and I’m hedging my bets I’m going to have a seamless, uneventful last trimester. Or at least willing the fact that it will easy.
Now, look – carrying this baby should be easier on me. I’m big: 5’10”. I’m no skinny ninny but thick and (I’d like to think), strong. If I was waddling at this point there would be a problem. A
woman I know, pregnant as well and three weeks behind me in gestation,
said, “Are you still fitting into your maternity clothes? I had to go buy all new ones!” This
comment made my day because 1) I’m hardly wearing any maternity clothes
as most of my wardrobe is already fashioned for a generous
bajunk-a-junk stomach, and 2) of those I do wear they’re only starting
to look appropriate, and 3) I’m really quite smug. While my baby can grow up and down, hers (she stands about 5’3” or so) can only jut out. I finally feel my height is to some advantage (other than intimidating people of course).
I still don’t identify fully with my pregnant peers. I visit two “November 2011” baby forums. Last night many of them were talking about their baby’s current position. “Oh, he’s transverse” and “My little bugger keeps flipping around!” to “Mine’s been head-up since the beginning.” This
intrigues me because I cannot possibly induce how they know this
because all I can tell is that it feels like I’ve got some heavy-duty
gas in there. The woman who is three weeks behind me in pregnancy? She said her kid wakes her up in the middle of the night with their kicking. Really? Because I just feel like I ate a burrito that didn’t agree with me.
Now,
I’ve got some cushioning if ya know what I mean, and apparently an
anterior placenta, meaning that squishy blob is on top of the baby and
softening his/her karate kicks, but lord almighty! I’ve
finally just come to the conclusion that these women are crazy and they
gotta calm the heck down because they have a few more months of cookin’
to do (and uncomfortable incubating it sounds like to me). They
also post things like, “I feel so guilty; I had a Diet Coke today,” or
“How long do I need to heat my cold cuts so they’re safe?” I’m
seriously reading this half the time with a soda in one hand and a
turkey sandwich in the other, chompin’ and snortin’ (chompin’ and
snortin’ is my most natural, relaxed – and common – state).
Then there is the ubiquitous post about the “coming home outfit”. This
is the outfit mothers spend no less than 22.6 hours choosing and what
their new bundle of joy will be wearing when he or she is brought home
from the hospital. Other commenters “ooo” and “awww” over these get-ups, resplendent with frogs and ducks, princesses or monkeys. I momentarily took a break from chompin’ and snortin’ to ruminate if I should buy a special outfit for this occasion. The answer: no. Back to the turkey sandwich.
This
is not to say I’m not spectacularly excited, and often times, my snide
commentary takes a back-seat to the belly pics, the “Is this safe?”
questions, and even the posts about awful things their “DH” says. For those not in the know, “DH” stands for “Dear Husband”. These
are sometimes my favorite posts, for DHs can say supremely clueless and
tactless things, and it’s my job to read them all and sort out which of
these Neanderthals are huge dicks. From what I can tell
there’s a lot of whale and “big as a house” commentary, frightened
pointing at burgeoning stretch marks while DHs crinkle their eyes in
horror and say, “What ARE those?!” (good thing I was practically born
with the things) and not-so-gentle jabs at the quantity of food these
soon-to-be mothers are consuming. This all plays into my smugness really well, because Matt is a nice and quiet guy and wouldn’t dare utter these things. He’s
also scared of me, and I feel like I have to teach my preggo
compatriots on how to put the fear of their wives (much worse than the
fear of God) into their husbands.
Last but not least on our baby odyssey are the baby classes! Our first class was this past week on breastfeeding. We were told to bring a baby doll for positioning and holding, but we brought a tie-dyed frog. I surely thought we were already the class delinquents but I was happy to spot a teddy bear in the audience as well. Most women in the class were eight months along and their husbands were dutiful (this is the Main Line, after all). I thought I’d surely leave the class with some good commentary but there wasn’t much to work with in this Ann Taylor-clad crowd. I
was also hoping to the very end the free-spirited instructor would whip
out her boob for a life-like reenactment, but no such luck. I’m hoping the class we take in a few weeks brings me more fodder: it’s for clueless first-time parents so my hopes are high.
But
somewhere in between all my inappropriate wisecracks, I’ve found myself
crying for no inexplicable reason other than the fact that I’m going to
HAVE A BABY. That Matt and I are going to be responsible
for this life that we’ve created (horribly cliched, I know, and the
creation was in a lab, but still!). This morning, on the
train “Our House” by Crosby, Stills, and Nash came on and with my
headphones on, and with Bryn Mawr and Ardmore flashing by, I cried out
of total and complete happiness at the thought of the life Matt and I
had built. I thought of Matt painting late at night in his
underwear to Chopin, our Saturday trips the last two weeks to the vet
for Penny’s stubborn ear infection, and of all the baby furniture
propped up in our living room waiting to be assembled. I
thought of early-morning weekend trips to the practice in New Jersey,
our recent date nights to the city to enjoy each other before the baby,
us cooking in the kitchen together (roasted chicken last night and Greek
pitas today) or watching bad TV in bed and late-night back rubs. I
thought of him lounging on my hospital bed during my Crohn’s flare a
couple years back and us watching movies with the volume low, or how he
told me, “If this is as bad as it gets, then I have it pretty good” when
we ran to the pharmacy late at night for medication our first year
together. I thought about the most mundane things: arguing
over what brownie mix to buy in the grocery aisle or about what evening
newscast to watch, what actor was in so-and-so movie and how no, he’s
not going to go out there and attack the hornet nest nestled in our
garage.
I thought about how much I love this man, and how I wouldn’t trade this life for any other. And
then I thought there’s nothing sweeter than being gifted with something
you thought you may never have, and how so very good we have it.
